You are the author of your own life .

You are the author of your own life .

Follow Your Passion

"When you Follow your Passion, you find your Purpose" TD Jakes

The Gift

What, at first glance, looks like struggle or tragedy; is really a gift. We need to go through struggle in life to be able to take a step back and look at life through a new pair of glasses. In the midst of struggle it is hard to see it as a gift; but as a professor of mine once said "Look for the Rainbows in the Clouds of Life". There are always rainbows. One of the most important things to remember is that there are no periods in life, only commas (TD Jakes).The Universe knows better than we humans, as to what we need for our soul's growth. We are so busy fighting the gift; what we should be doing is take time to absorb what is happening in our lives. Allow ourselves the time needed to work through our issues. This is most likely not going to be as quick as we would like, which is a real challenge for many.  We live in a very fast paced society where patience has been forgotten. I have found, through my own struggles, that just siting quietly and taking "walks" through my life, looking at what I have learned thus far, has really helped me.

I had known for 2 years that my mom was going to die. She was my only parent, my mom and my dad. During those 2 years I had to watch cancer take her, day by day. I am not through it yet, and I know I will never stop missing her. She died on December 30th, 2011. It has not even been 4 months yet and the pain is still fresh and with me daily. One may say, you knew this was coming, doesn't that make it easier? Not really. Not only did I loose my mother, but 2 weeks after her death my husband was laid off of his job. Now that one was not expected, what a shock that was. The initial reaction is "What, are you serious?" This did not feel like a gift!  Being the introspective, positive woman that I am, I took a step back to breathe and re-focus.The conclusion I came to was "This is not the end, it's the beginning". That is exactly what I said to my husband, who was already being very positive about the whole thing. As TD Jakes says, there are no periods in life, only commas. All though it has only been a short time since I lost my mother, I can already see the gifts she has left me with. This whole experience has been a journey, which is far from over. Life is a very twisty, curvy road with no end. If you go, or have taken one direction and you do not like it, then go another. It is all up to you to use the gift of life any which way you like. Struggle is one curve in the road to teach you something, to make you better on the flip side. When you are done with that curve, you will be ready to go the next turn.

Now Is The Time

No More Excuses! It is time to take responsibility for your life. You know in your soul what is right for you, it's time to stop ignoring it.

First thing you do is shake off the worry of what other people think; this is YOUR life YOUR gift, no one else's.
The second thing you do is pay attention to what your body is telling you. Depression, anxiety, stress, It's all your body's physical reaction to what is not right in your life. Listen to your soul.

We have all been conditioned to do "What's Right" by society's rules. Who made up these rules? God's rules are really the only ones that are important.

Now, I am not by any means saying to break laws, as laws do serve a very important purpose. What I am saying is break out of the rules and restraint's that we have placed on ourselves due to what we feel are the rules; what is expected of us. Stop using the "Have To's" as an excuse for not living.

I have to do this, I have to do that. Who Said?

If you knew you were going to die in 2 years, how would you live your life differently? The fact is that you have no idea when your life here on Earth will be over. NOW is the time!!!!! No more Have To's!!



One of my Favorite Quotes:

"The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours-it is an amazing journey-and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins." Bob Moawad

I HOPE YOU DANCE Lyrics - LEE ANN WOMACK @ eLyrics.net

I HOPE YOU DANCE Lyrics - LEE ANN WOMACK @ eLyrics.net

What makes your soul sing and your heart dance?

What makes your soul sing and your heart dance?

Something I have learned in this last year is that nothing is as serious or monumental in this life as we make it out to be. Life is going to end, whether we build an underground bomb shelter or not. Eventually, we all have to go Home. So what do you have to loose? As Oprah said in Life Class "Your life is not getting any longer, its just the opposite". Every day that we live unfulfilled and unhappy, is another day wasted.

As I watched my mom go through the stages of cancer, eventually to succumb to the inevitable, I made a very conscious decision to live life differently. Ironic how death can not only take a life but give a life too. This is not to say that I wasn't previously living, but not the way I wanted. I have had a great life; starting with a great childhood. My teen years were fun, a little dangerous, but fun. Then at 19, I met the man of my dreams and started the family I always knew I wanted. Something went awry in my adult years as I was swallowed whole by life. Not only did I decide to have three kids, who by the way I wanted, I was also working, going to school, and trying to keep up with the day to day goings on of a family of 5. I was driven to be successful in life, always looking at the glass as half full. I was doing a pretty good job of juggling until my mom became sick.It's a little hard to be positive and driven in the midst of grief. 


This last year of being down gave me time to look at life through very different glasses and to re-assess what I want out of the rest of my time here on Earth. My mother has given me a gift; the gift of clarity. It is hard to describe, but I can see my life with more crisp, clearness than ever before. I definitely do not have all of the answers nor am I done with struggles, but I am ready to face what life throws my way as I have faith that everything will work out just the way it is supposed to. I know that this is my one and only chance to live and I refuse to blow it. I am ready to take the winding road of life, with all of its twists and turns, to where ever it shall take me. As Stephen Shapiro said "There are no wrong decisions, just decisions".

True Freedom

In order to gain freedom, we must first change what's on the inside. Once we free ourselves from our own thoughts and beliefs, we free ourselves to be who we were meant to be.

What My Mother Taught Me

1. Security- The security I received from her love allowed me to safely travel out into the world and trust in myself. 
2. Independence- She never stopped me from doing things my way, all though it probably wouldn't have worked anyway! 
3. Strength- Watching her be a strong woman taught me that I could do, be, and have anything I set my mind to.
4.  Courage- She had courage every day of her life; being a single mom, moving cross country with no job and no where to live, and even up to the very end of her life. My mom was the most courageous women I know.
5. Spontaneity- She taught me that life is an adventure
6. Freedom- She allowed me to just be a kid, no pressure from the adult world. 
7. Laughter- She taught me that sometimes all you can do is laugh.
8. Kindness/Compassion- There was not a person my mom met that didn't like her. She treated others the way she wanted to be treated.
9. Nothing is for free- This is one of those silly things she said to me many, many years ago and I have always remembered it. Any time I get a call saying " you just won...." I remember her words of wisdom, "nothing is for free". 
10. This life is just a short time in all of eternity- She said this one at the end of her life and I will carry it will me for all of time. 

My mother was the best person I have ever known, and I will be eternally thankful for all she has taught me

Here We Go!

Happiness is Freedom

Welcome to my first blog! The name of my blog started as a joke, as I love motivation. I like it so much I am regularly compelled to share anything motivational I come across, including my own insight. I  had a rough 2011, as my mom passed away December 30th.Loosing my mom, as hard as it was, helped me to view life through a very different scope. I have always been a glass half full kind of girl, so being positive comes very naturally to me. I have spent many hours contemplating the meaning of life this past year and what I know for sure is life ends, at least on Earth.  With this fact in mind, I have decided to take full advantage of the gift I have been given. Part of that gift, I feel, is to help others to be successful in life. I am not 100% sure what that means as of yet, but here I am.